Utilization of EMDR with grief and mourning


EMDR is a treatment methodology that can be useful in the mourning process. Utilizing Theresa Rando’s framework, a protocol will be presented describing how EMDR can be applied through the mourning process. REMDR does not shorten the phases of assimilation and accommodation of the loss, but processes the factors that can complicate the mourning. EMDR can help the mourner deal with the following mourning processes: 1) Recognizing the loss 2) React to the separation 3) Recollect and re-experience the deceased and the relationship 4) Relinquish the old (external) attachments to the deceased and the old assumptive world 5) Readjust to move adaptively into the new world without forgetting the old 6) Reinvest. EMDR seems to facilitate the formation of an adaptive inner representation. We do not lose attachments to loved ones that die, they are transformed. We move from living in presence to living in absence. Memories of the deceased often emerge during EMDR treatment. It is the emergence of memories of the deceased that let us know and acknowledge the meaning of the relationship, the person’s role in our lives and identity. And enable us to carry the basic security of having loved and been loved into the future. We can go forward in a world without the deceased, because we have an adaptive inner representation to take with us.






Roger Solomon

Original Work Citation

Solomon, R. (2004, June). Utilization of EMDR with grief and mourning. In single trauma and grief. Symposium conducted at the 5th EMDR Europe Association Conference, Stockholm, Sweden



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